How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Built Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
by Kimberlee Roth, Freda B. Friedman,Ph.D., LCSW, Foreword by Randi
Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, is relatively common yet it's not talked about very much. With at least two to three percent of the population suffering from BPD (by conservative estimates), there are many millions of kids--now adults--who were likely raised by someone exhibiting its symptoms. The effects on these adult children can be profound and long-lasting.
There have been a few books written about the disorder, mainly for people with BPD and for their loved ones. But until now, not one has addressed in a comprehensive way what it's like to have been parented by someone with the disorder.
The effects in adult children can range from low self-esteem and perfectionism to the inability to trust others and paralyzing guilt. But they can be overcome. With sections on The Past, The Present and The Future, Roth and Friedman offer readers not only validation of their childhood experiences but practical, realistic suggestions for moving on and creating change.
A friend let me read the book you're working on. He said the parents the book deals with sounded so much like my mom, from the stories I've told him. So I took it home and read almost all of it last night. I was totally blown away. You described my mother perfectly! I've read a lot--and I mean a LOT--of books about parental issues, and your book covered areas that I haven't seen addressed before....Thanks for writing it.
--D. R., Chicago, Illinois
"If Stop Walking on Eggshells has become the bible for people with a borderline family member, I predict that Surviving a Borderline Parent will become the 'must have' book for people who have a parent with borderline traits. Authors Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman have done a stunning job of validating the isolating experience of these 'adult children,' and more importantly, shown them how to overcome the constant feelings of guilt, abnormality, and self-doubt. This book belongs on the shelf of every clinician and adult child with a borderline parent."
--Randi Kreger, author of Stop Walking on Eggshells
"Kimberlee Roth and Freda Freidman provide comprehensive guidelines for adult children with borderline parents that help create balance and boundaries in these tumultuous relationships. The authors point to the need to break the ‘silent treatment’ around borderline personality disorder and encourage clinicians to educate patients and family members about this diagnosis. Roth and Freidman's book is well worth the investment for any adult child with a borderline parent."
--Christine A. Lawson, Ph.D., author of Understanding the Borderline